On our first day, when we
stopped for whatever reason, I saw children holding rods. I asked
Mami what they were doing. He asked them to show. They were playing.
They had taken two plastic bottle caps, connected with a stick to
make an axis, and raced the little two-wheel vehicles with the rods.
I was about to cry. When I was a child we also played with simple
things. Sticks, cones, pebbles. During our trip, we saw hundreds of children playing with all kinds of things. We didn't see any manufactured toys.
Meeting with children was
for me the most disturbing thing, emotionally, and my travel
companions' constant comments on children being cute made me wince.
At one point we were taken
to a family smithy where barefoot boys were hammering on
a heavy piece of metal. The audience was delighted. They were so cute
and skilful.
I am sorry to offend
anyone, but I don't find child labour cute. It isn't even cute to
watch for five minutes, and still less to think that the children
probably do it ten hours a day seven days a week, not because they enjoy it, but because they have to feed themselves and the rest of the family. I may sound
old-fashioned, but I think children should go to school. I firmly
believe in the benefits of education. But I may be wrong. Malagasy
parents don't send their children to school. They send them to watch
zebu.
A zebu costs 300,000
ariary, which is €100 and three months wages. Children as young as
six are hired to watch zebus and are paid one zebu a year. By the
time they are fifteen they own a hoard. Why would they go to school,
which won't get them a job or a social status? The only thing that
gives status is zebu. Schools are few and far between, and there are
no school buses. Rural schools have one teacher and a hundred pupils
in a classroom. There are hardly any books or supplies. Much better
to stay at home and earn zebu.
At one stop, we saw a
tiny, perhaps five-year-old girl tossing rice in a huge mortar. Lynn
asked to lift the pestle: it was heavy. Everyone thought the girl was
cute. I had to turn away.
On the way from Ranomafana
to Andringitra we stopped to visit “a genuine Malagasy home”.
Mami made it sound as if he was doing us a special favour, and we
almost swallowed it, although it had of course been pre-arranged.
Mami had explained to us what a Malagasy house looked like: storage
and poultry in the ground floor, two bedrooms on the first floor and,
if there is a second floor, kitchen. In the house we visited,
forty-two people in three generations lived together. The oldest
people slept in a bed, the younger on mattresses, young boys had
blankets, and girls slept on bare dirt floor.
Well, seventy years ago in
Sweden, forty people might share two rooms.
It was clean, it didn't
smell (like Russian country huts would). The others saw cockroaches –
I didn't. We had cockroaches in our flat in central Moscow. There
were no tables or chairs, just a couple of beds. My travel companions
said afterwards how charming it was with three generations living
together, and I didn't say anything. When I was a child, we lived
four generations together, not in a clay hut, but in a, by Russian
standards, luxury flat. It wasn't charming. It was a necessity, and
there wasn't any way out of it. My great aunt, returning to Moscow
from deportation in mid-50s, was allowed to buy a part of a peasant
hut just outside the city, with no running water and a clay stove she
used for heating and cooking. Young and silly as I was, I thought it
was charming and loved to visit her. In the '70s she finally got a
modern municipal flat, and it was from her reaction I realised how
much she had hated the charm.
Anyway, now comes the sad
part of the story. The guidebook said visitors should bring small
souvenirs for local people: postcards, stickers, pencils for
children. I thought it was nonsense. Yet there I was, surrounded by
children of various ages, some carrying babies on their backs,
calling: “Cadeaux, cadeaux!” They were not begging, they smiled
and cheered, and I had not brought any gifts. I was embarrassed - no, ashamed. Mami was dispensing
hotel soaps and some toiletries I had found in my purse. I saw two teenage girls smelling my body lotion with suspicion. But it would
have been so easy to bring crayons, erasers, pins, ribbons, hair clips,
small things you find in party ctrackers - just by rummaging through my desk drawers! I now rummaged through my
backpack and dug up some pens which were snatched from my hands –
gently, not aggressively – with happy grins. One of the girls had
asked for our names and kept saying: “Catherine and Maria!” Her
name was Lydia, or at least that's what I heard her say.
For the next hour in the
van I was thinking about what I could do for Lydia. I knew I could
not adopt her, as I once upon a time believed I must do with a girl
in a Russian orphanage millions of miles away from everything, who
ran up to me as soon as I entered the room, hugged me and cried:
“Mamma!” I could not adopt Lydia because she had this big family who, I am sure, loved her. But I was thinking about asking Mami to visit her on the
way back to Tana and give her all my t-shirts and scarves, and my
notebook and the rest of my pens, and somehow send her a parcel with
more pens and crayons and a teddy bear and picturebooks in French. I
thought how I might send money through some charity to help her go to
school and have her teacher write to me about her. All my idealistic
stuff.
Mami mentioned later that
he chose a new family each time, to be fair, so he might never go
back to that family again. He said he paid them 5,000 ariary per
visit, which is about one pound and which would buy two meals for the
whole family.
And I kept thinking: maybe
a small weaving frame, like my grandchildren have; a sewing or
embroidery kit, something useful rather than toys. Although I can
imagine – no, I cannot imagine – what a pile of simple toys would
be like for those kids. How, how, what could I do? Lydia will stay
forever in my mind, just like that little Russian girl. (I have a
picture, but Anton and I have agreed that we should not put pictures
of children on the web). I didn't want her to be raped by an uncle at
the age of eight and start having babies at twelve and have ten by
twenty-five. I wanted her to go to school and get a proper education
and change the world. But she would be better off watching zebus.
Yet I was thinking: Sweden
was poor a hundred years ago, and it all changed with democracy.
Russia is still poor and will never change. The Malagasy people are
poor, but they work hard and build their clay-brick houses which they
decorate nicely if they can; and the children were clean, and the
girls' hair carefully plaited. And everybody smiled.
And I couldn't help thinking: when I was a child in the Communist Russia, we would
treasure pens, candy wraps, pins, rubber bands, paper clips, and yes,
hotel soaps, anything foreign brought into Russia by the few
privileged to travel abroad; how valuable these things were to us.
And then, I lived in the capital and belonged to the elite. And I couldn't help thinking: do these children - and grownups for that matter - hate us like we, in those old evil days in Russia, hated and envied foreigners who had all those attractive things that we were denied.
I hope they don't. I don't want little Lydia to hate me because I went back to the van and disappeared from her life forever, with just a pen left behind.
Maybe I can make a
difference, but I don't know yet how. Maybe I cannot reach Lydia, but I can help another girl who will then help two more girls. I did give Mami all my t-shirts
when we parted, to dispense as he saw fit.
At this stop, Mami told the children to line up to get their gifts.
To be continued.
4 comments:
I came by your blog so I thought I would leave a comment. I grew up in the city but I have families in the countryside that leave in the same condition. I guess I could shed some lights on some of your questions.
- Manners and Etiquette are very important to us. When a child doesn't behave, the parents will usually scold them.
- Child labor? Traditionally, malagasy people had many kids and that was their pride because many kids = more help on the farm. Kids didn't have to go to school back then. Most parents do not abuse children but some people do. Now, many parents send their kids to school (May be finish secondary school if lucky). Some people still don't realize that time have changed and they could achieve better life with more education.
- It is impolite to not bring anything when you visit someone. Though it is not required, it's nice to bring some sweets for the kids.
Thank you. I value all comments. And as I keep saying, I am an outsider and cannot pass judgements. The point of this post was to convey my state of mind.
Grate post! In my case, I just use hot water and soapy cloth whenever I clean my stove tops. I learned this from my mom. She said that spraying the stove tops with unknown solutions can damage its aesthetics and functionality. Thanks:)
Great post ! I am thankful for our family! Louisa prayed this week, "Thank you God, for putting me in this family," and I am so thankful He did! Celebrating our anniversary recently (with two cards arriving late this week!)Thanks!
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